You probably won’t defeat emotional eating – and that's fine.
Many of my clients tell me they want to eliminate emotional
eat forever.
As a person who struggled with emotional eating, I completely
understand the desire to make this behavior go away forever. Never feel
forced to seek food to calm or relieve stress or boredom
again.
Some people get there, but most do not – and that's normal. You can
make mountains of progress without overcoming emotional food in general.
In my opinion, it makes sense to work with less frequent and less intense episodes of emotional overeating. The attempt to “put an end” to emotional overeating once and for all leads us to disappointment. Every time we overeat, we feel that we have failed. And the feeling of failure does not motivate.
When we work on our emotional overeating from a place of compassion + “striving for the best,” this is what usually happens:
* We are building the best ways to deal with stress in general. We are starting to add tools to the toolbar. Instead of just eating, we still have many options, even if we still have in the toolbox as one of the options.
* We begin to organize our lives to remove stressors that we don’t need and that we can control (for example, are we writing a holiday letter this year).
* We are beginning to realize that we are less helpless, hopeless and helpless than the story we told ourselves in the past.
* We cope less with food.
When do we really cope with food:
* We are aware of this and remain more “tested.”
* Food episodes are less epic and less intense, We eat one bar of chocolate instead of three +, and we can often stop to the point of saturation. We often get to “that's enough; I got what I needed ”a place much faster.
* we able to recover from any food episodes faster.
* We bring more gentleness, kindness and compassion for ourselves in our difficult moments.
Instead of saying "I'm a weak shitty bag," we think, "Hey friend, you have a hard time right now, huh? What can we do to calm down and feel better? I am here with you, everything is all right with you, we can handle it together. ”
So
instead of “all or nothing, defeat it forever”, shoot for “a
a little less, a little better, a little bit at a time. ”
And perhaps you WILL conquer emotional food forever – but if you do not, it will be much better than it was.
💙 Robyn
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