This is a habit that most acne sufferers know. This insatiable desire to run around and check the mirror a thousand times a day.
I was here. You were there
What do we actually do when we go to check the mirror? What are we trying to achieve?
For some reason, we cling to the desperate hope that acne has magically disappeared in the last five minutes.
Except, of course, we know this is not true.
And then all that happens is that we are simply reminded of our skin, and we are even more miserable than ever
And we logically know that this is pointless and just creates more pain. And it can lead to the fact that we begin to break the skin, which worsens our acne.
So Why do we keep doing this?
Notch Brain Responsible for Acne Inspection
We have this funny part of our brain that I like to call the brain of the creature … sometimes it is called the "lizard brain." This is not a very logical part of your brain.
The only task is to protect you from mortal danger, and she is constantly looking for it.
In addition, the problem is that he does not know what is real or what is imagined. Everything that we present as a threat to our love, affiliation, safety or security, our brain considers a deadly threat.
In your opinion, the literal lion about to eat you, or the imagination of a scenario in which someone rejects you, is considered to be exactly the same level of “oh shit.
What does your brain do when it senses danger?
It gives you a lot of anxiety.
Acne is the ideal so-called "danger". We interpret this as an absolute threat to our love and belonging.
In cave times, threats to our love and belonging could literally mean death. The numbers were safety, and if you were kicked out of the tribe, then you would probably be dead from a wild animal, hypothermia, or starvation. That is why we react so strongly to the potential judgments of others.
But nowadays it’s just not as serious as our brain does.
Acne (or 99% of what we worry about) is not a real mortal danger. But your brain does not know this, so no matter what you worry about, it will perceive it as a whole.
And what does your brain want from you when you face mortal danger? He wants you to be scared. He wants you to run. He wants you to fight. He wants you to do your best to stay alive at all costs.
This is the biological goal of concern.
This is why acne makes you so worried. That's why your brain wants you to run, fight, kick and scream when you get a breakthrough.
That's why your brain wants you to come and check the mirror a thousand times a day (or choose it, or go in cycles on it, or buy a million products, or stick to a strict diet, or the list goes on).
In your opinion, acne is as bad as a lion is going to eat you. Checking the mirror again and again is like leaving the cave every five minutes to see if the lion is still or not.
Understanding why you're obsessively checking for acne in the mirror is key
Why am I telling you this?
I tell you this because it is very important to understand how it works.
As people, we take our thoughts and emotions very seriously.
We think that since we thought about it, it must be true or important, or that we must act accordingly.
We think that since we felt something difficult, it means that we must do something to avoid the repetition of such sensations.
In fact, you can see how the creature’s brain is just full of BS. He tells you stories of death because he wants you to stay alive, but really … well, actually, it's just too dramatic.
If you are in fact, literally in mortal danger, you do not need to listen to what he says.
You do not need to be afraid of every thought and every emotion. You do not need to control fear. Because it is false.
It's just some kind of satanic character in your brain trying to scare you.
So, I mean, when you have a desire to check the mirror, remember what I said here. Remember, just because your brain told you to watch doesn’t mean that nothing bad will happen if you don’t.
What is really going to happen?
You will feel uncomfortable for several minutes. This is it. And then it will pass.
What else will happen?
You will send a message to your creature brain that acne is not life or death, and you do not need to worry about it.
When you are not fighting or running away from something that you are worried about, your brain will find out that this may not be such a big threat as he thought. So next time it will not make you so worried.
Your feelings about your skin stem from your thoughts about it.
But but …. SHE FEELS MORE THAN ABOUT LEO ABOUT THE ATTACKING ME! Ahhhhh – quote: you
Another part of this is the understanding that our emotions are always generated by our thoughts. And our thoughts are generated from what we consider to be true – the value that we attach to our skin or our life, our circumstances.
As already mentioned, the significance we gave acne is that it is a threat.
We have determined that acne makes us ugly. If we are ugly, then people will judge us. If they judge us, it means that we do not deserve to live our own lives, to do what makes us happy, to be seen, to have love or to feel attractive.
This is pretty scary, right?
Of course, this will make you feel sick, worried, upset and ashamed.
You must understand that these emotions come from THOUGHT. This comes from the thought of what acne means.
I repeat: it is created by thought … not for acne.
The value we attach to things is what we created based on how we interpreted our lives up to this point.
Although these meanings, these beliefs, seem inextricably true to us, they are NOT TRUE. They are just interpretations.
One person may be in the same situation as someone else. and think about it in a completely different way. That means they also Feel completely different about that.
It is meaning that creates pain, not circumstances.
This means that if you change the meaning of something – or simply understand that we do not need to take the meanings that we came up with so seriously – then you will change the emotions surrounding what you think hurts you.
Change value after checking acne mirror
Does Acne Really Make You Ugly?
What if this is not so? Because you are not just your skin. You are a multifaceted person with a million amazing qualities, and your struggle with your skin is one small part of the essence of who you are. Everyone has “flaws” that are completely subjective and created in the mind. We reduce ourselves to being just our skin, in fact we are much more. And attractiveness is much more than one quality. You do not choose your friends, lovers and acquaintances because of the lack of all human shortcomings, like others.
But it’s terrible if people will judge me!
People judge each other by the most random things that you can imagine, and all this is based on their own stories and beliefs and in fact has nothing to do with you. You might think that they are looking at your skin, in fact they think that your nose is too round (which is only because they hate their own nose). You actually really like your nose, thank you very much – so you know that they rave anyway. The bottom line is that you should not take your thoughts so seriously, you also do not need to take other people's thoughts so seriously. Why give them power? Do they deserve so much power? Is it worth someone else because of the passing thoughts of frightening people to control what you do with your life and how you feel about yourself?
The reason we obsessively check a mirror (or any other self-destructive habit) is because we are looking for a way to change our feelings. We are looking for a different experience.
The problem is that it gives us temporary relief from this intense accumulation of anxiety, so we continue to do so.
Ultimately, it makes us more miserable, and it just doesn't work. It just perpetuates the story that acne is threatening, just making us more and more worried. He offers more of these same complex thoughts.
If you really begin to understand what is happening – and perhaps find a new meaning in what bothers you – you may simply find that your anxiety and desire to run to the mirror will naturally disappear.
NLP Swish Acne Obsessive Mirror Checker Template
What I described above is actually the gist of the issue, but something else you can try is called the Swish Pattern NLP.
Our brain acquires familiar habits, so when you think about your skin, you cannot help but notice that it automatically fuels the desire to check the mirror. This will happen before you even have the opportunity to think about what is happening.
It makes no sense to be mad at yourself for thinking. This is not so important. Thoughts are just thoughts. Do not turn them into such a big deal!
Just remember why there is a thought (the brain of the creature is trying to scare you), and that you do not have to act in accordance with it. Everything is fine. You will live!
But there is a trick that you can use to try to “remount” the trigger so that when you think about your skin it doesn’t make you want to look in the mirror.
The trigger in this case, when you remember about your skin.
It causes frightened thoughts about your skin, as well as the fact that acne makes you ugly, etc. So you check the mirror. And then you feel temporary relief, accompanied by new suffering and a constant urge to check the mirror again.
The Swish pattern helps you reprogram your brain to change the response to a trigger. Thus, instead of prompting you to check the mirror when you think about your skin, you are instead launching a more favorable and healthy response.
Check out this guide on how to whistle an NLP pattern.
Are you an obsessive mirror check? This is normal, you are not alone! Have you had any success in fighting this habit? Share your secrets of success in the comments!