This is a habit that acne sufferers experience. This is an insatiable desire to run and check the mirror a thousand times a day.
I was there. You were there.
What do we actually do when we go to check the mirror? What are we trying to do?
For some reason, we grab hold of the desperate hope that acne has magically cleared up in the last five minutes.
Except, of course, we know this is not true.
And then everything that happens is what we just reminded of our skin and are more unhappy than ever.
And we logically know that it is meaningless and just creates pain. And can lead to a choice on our skin, which makes our acne worse.
So What for Do we continue to do this?
Critical brain responsible for observational testing of acne mirrors
We have this funny part of our brain, which I like to call the critter brain. Sometimes it is called the "lizard brain." This is not a very logical part of your brain.
This is only a job to keep you safe from mortal danger, and she constantly scans her.
In addition, the problem is that she does not know what is real or what she imagines. Everything that we represent as a threat to our love or belonging, safety or security, is considered our mortal threat.
For your brain, a literal lion is going to eat you or imagine a scenario when someone rejects you, considered to be exactly the same level of “oh shit”.
What does your brain do when it senses danger?
This causes a lot of concern.
Acne is the perfect so-called "danger." This is interpreted by us as the main threat to our love and belonging.
On cave days, threats to our love and belonging could literally mean death. There was safety in quantity, and if you were kicked out of a tribe, then you would most likely be dead from a wild animal, hypothermia, or famine. That is why we react so strongly to the potential judgment of others.
But these days it’s just not as serious as our brains do.
Acne (or 99% of the things we worry about) are not real deadly hazards. But your brain does not know this, so no matter what you are worried, it will treat it as one.
And what does your brain want you to do when faced with a deadly danger? He wants you to be ugly. He wants you to run. He wants you to fight. He wants you to do everything you need to stay alive at all costs.
This is the biological goal of concern.
That is why acne causes you so much concern. That is why your brain wants you to run and fight, and also scream when you get a breakthrough.
That is why your brain wants you to go and check the mirror a thousand times a day (either choose it, impose it, buy a million products, follow a strict diet, or the list goes on).
For your brain, acne is just as bad as a lion who must eat you. Checking the mirror again and again looks like going out of your cave every five minutes to make sure that the lion is still there, or if it is removed.
Understanding why you obsessively check acne in the mirror is key
Why am I telling you this?
I tell you this because it is very important to understand how it works.
As humans, we take our thoughts and emotions very seriously.
We think that since we thought about it, it must be truthful or important or that we should act on it.
We think that because we felt something difficult, it means that we have to do something so that we can no longer feel this way.
In fact, you can see how the critter's brain is just full of BS. He tells you stories about doom, because he wants you to stay alive, but actually … well, it's really just too dramatic.
If you are literally in mortal danger, then you do not need to listen to what he says.
You do not need to be so afraid of every thought and emotion. You should not be driven by fear. Because it is a lie.
It's just some hacked satanic character in your brain that scares you.
So I mean that when you get the desire to check the mirror, remember what I said here. Remember that just because your brain told you to go see doesn’t mean that something bad will happen if you don’t.
What will actually happen?
For a few minutes you will feel discomfort. This is it. And then it will pass.
What else will happen?
You are going to send a message to your brain critter that acne is not life or death, and you do not need to make you worry so much about it.
When you don’t fight or run away from something you’re worried about, your brain learns that it may not be as big a threat as he thought. So the next time it does not make you worry so much.
Your feelings about your skin come from your thoughts about it.
But but … IT FEELS THAT LEVON TO ATTACK ME! Ahhhhh – quote: you
Another part of this is the understanding that our emotions are always generated from our thoughts. And our thoughts are created from what we believe to be true – otherwise we attach to our skin, our life, our circumstances.
As already mentioned, the importance we attached to acne is that it is a threat.
We've determined that eels make us ugly. If we are ugly, then people will judge us. If they judge us, it means that we do not deserve life, we do what makes us happy, to be seen, loved or felt attractive.
It's pretty scary, right?
Of course, it will make you feel sick, anxious, disappointed and ashamed.
You must understand that these emotions come from THOUGHT. This comes from the thought of what acne means.
I repeat: this is created by thought … not acne.
The value that we attach to things is what we have created, based on how we interpreted our life up to this point.
Despite the fact that these values, these beliefs, seem to us completely irresistible, they are not true. These are just interpretations.
One person may be in the same situation as someone else. and think about something completely different. This means that they also Feel completely different about it.
This is the value that creates pain, not the circumstance.
This means that if you change the meaning of something or simply understand that we do not need to perceive the meanings that we have come up with so seriously, then you change the emotions associated with what you think causes you pain.
Change the value behind the mirror check acne
Does acne really make you ugly?
What if it's wrong? Because you are not just your skin. You are a multi-faceted person with a million amazing qualities, and your struggle with your skin is one of the few components of the essence of who you are. Everyone has “flaws” that are completely subjective and created in the mind. We reduce ourselves to being just our skin, because we are much more. And attractiveness is more than one quality. You do not choose your friends, lovers and acquaintances, based on their lack of human defects, as well as others.
But it's terrible if people judge me!
People judge each other for the most random things you can imagine, and all this is based on their own stories and beliefs and in fact has nothing to do with you. You may think that they are looking at your skin, in fact they think that your nose is too round (that just because they hate their own nose). You actually look a lot like your nose, thank you so much, so you know that they just whacko anyway. Point – just as you do not need to be serious about your own thoughts, you also do not need to be serious about the thoughts of other people. Why give them power? Do they deserve such strength? Is it worth it for others clumsy thinking trivia to control what you do with your life and how you feel about yourself?
The reason why we check the mirror compulsively (or any other suicidal habit) is because we are looking for a way to change the feelings that we have. We are looking for a different experience.
The problem is that it gives us a temporary relief from the intense increase in anxiety, so we continue to do so.
Ultimately, this makes us more unhappy, although it just does not work. He is simply perpetuating the story that eels are threatened, simply causing us to worry more and more. He offers more of the same difficult thoughts.
If you really begin to understand what is happening, and you may find a new meaning in what seems to be worrying you – you may just find that your anxiety and desire to run to the mirror will naturally disappear.
NLP Swish Pattern for Obsessive-Acne Mirror Control
What I described above is actually the essence of the matter, but something else you can try is called the Swirl NLP template.
Our brains fall into familiar patterns, so when you think about your skin, you cannot help that it is automatically going to dismiss the desire to go check out the mirror. This will happen before you have the opportunity to even consider what is happening.
It makes no sense to be angry at yourself for thinking. That's not the point. Thoughts are just thoughts. Do not make them into such a big deal!
Just remember why there is a thought (the creature’s brain is trying to scare you), and that you don’t have to act on it. It's okay You will live!
But there is a trick that you can use to try to “reset” the trigger, so when you think about your skin, it doesn’t cause you to look in the mirror.
The trigger in this case is when you remember your skin.
It causes scary thoughts about your skin, and that acne makes you ugly, and so on. D. And so on. And so on. That leads to feelings of anxiety, and then you get the desire to go to the mirror to ease anxiety. Therefore, you are checking a mirror. And then you feel temporary relief, followed by more suffering and a constant desire to check the mirror again.
A whistle pattern helps you reprogram your brain to change the response to a trigger. Therefore, instead of wanting to check the mirror when you think about your skin, you instead initiate an answer that will be more beneficial and healthy.
Read this guide on how to make a NLP whistle pattern.
Are you obsessed with mirror control? All right, you're not alone! Have you had any success in kicking the habit? Share your secrets of success in the comments!