You don't have to be a genius to understand that acne is hard on self-esteem.
And if you are the one who fought acne for a long time, like me, no one should tell you how destructive it is for you.
Let me tell you my story so you know that you are not alone. And also that there is hope of finding your way into a more peaceful, empowered relationship with you and your skin.
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For several years, I struggled with an acne-type rash that was so self-respecting that it was disastrous — so bad, so ugly, so disgusting, that friends and strangers would put everything in their two cents:
“You have to do something about your skin,” they said.
Over the years I have received the strangest advice.
For example, a vague acquaintance once invited me into his home to try his modern colon cleanser for a week.
Um, no, thanks!
Drink more water, try a snake oil moisturizer, make coconut water only quickly, stop using sunscreen (in Australia!) …
I am ashamed to say this, but I listened to every piece of skin advice I have ever received, because it worked for a friend of a friend of a friend.
I bought all the creams and skins, and I was on all kinds of strange diets and fasting.
But what seemed to work for countless others seemed to never work for me.
I knew that most of them were probably rubbish. But my self-esteem was so broken, and I was so desperate to clean my skin, that I tried everything.
If you are reading this article, you can probably relate to my story!
Why is acne so hard on our self-esteem
Acne is an obvious flaw.
This indicates the quality of your lifestyle, health and stress for everyone: your family, your friends, your colleagues, your boss, random strangers on the bus – they all miraculously turn into skin care specialists, even if you think You have a pretty good skin day (given).
Acne is also an insulating condition.
Because it's just not nice to look at your own face, getting ready for work, and see the skin of a pimply teenager.
It’s impossible to ignore acne when the world is seen on your face.
Because it is good on your face.
And as obvious as acne, it's hard to talk about it.
Why is it so difficult even To acknowledge Are acne heavy on our self-esteem?
I think that most of the suffering comes from the expectations placed on our shoulders.
We are now in 2018, and I still have an unrealistic idea of what it means to be a woman: feminine and attractive and beautiful.
And without acne.
And when I do not feel that this is something, my self-esteem certainly suffers.
I could express my anger by blaming the media or my education,
But today I decided to take responsibility for my narrow definition of female beauty.
Because at some point in my life, I decided to accept what others said as my truth: my value was based on how attractive and sexually attractive I was.
And this somehow, I would be less female if I had a pimple.
Studying this article and reflecting on the relationship between femininity and acne, I found a beautiful article that I would like to share with you all.
“What if acne wasn't a flaw” was sent to Man Repeller in December 2017.
Of all the things I've ever read about acne, this article taught me and inspired me the most.
These are about five separate women who regularly go through acne.
And they talk about their attitude towards their skin.
I hear, I hear:
What I would like to understand is that over the years my skin has made me want to exist outside of it, this is what acne […] only there. I wish I could feel that I could leave the house without makeup and still look acceptable. I wish I knew that it wasn’t someone’s job to determine if that was acceptable. I also wish that I did not know that there is nothing to be deceived. I would like to know that it would be great to feel and act as if my acne was an invasion – that these red things were not welcome. I am sorry that I also did not know that it would be nice to pretend that something like a supermodel of the 90s made me over my lip. Basically, I wish I knew it was normal, whatever that meant.
But that's all.
What is normal?
Am I still fit into the beauty rate during the breakout?
Can I be beautiful with acne? Can I date with acne ?! Anyone will love me?
Am I a smaller woman when I decide that this time I will not have a makeup cake for a trip to the supermarket?
I dont know.
But I'll take Kendall Jenner “Never let it stop you” as the answer, “that sh * t” is acne.
Well, it's easier said than done!
Acne is rude to self-esteem. But don't let this shit stop you.
In an article she wrote for The Love Vitamin, Tracy wrote about acne as a hobby.,
You know when you are OCD-about your skin, and you spend hours and hours searching for this one miraculous treatment that will finally cleanse your skin in a week …
So much so that you leave the rest of your life, especially when you feel that you are fighting a lost battle.
When your acne prevents you from doing what you really want to do …
When you stop a fun evening with your friends, because you have a new breakthrough PMS …
When, when, when …
Your light dims a little.
Take it from someone who has been letting the light in for many years.
That means you have a choice.: is it acne that you are worth?
If you decide that acne simply cannot take hold of your life, you need to take responsibility for your life.
Break out (pun) of the victim's mentality and act as a powerful person, which you really are.
As long as you do not collect this mess, you prefer to be kind and support yourself in any case.
Because the more you learn to love yourself acne, the easier it becomes to cleanse your skin, because you will heal from a place of love, acceptance and support, and not from fear, frustration and anger.
Acne causes self-esteem? You are not alone
As a person who has developed acne as an adult, I find the courage shown by the people behind the #acnepositivity movement, incredible. Sarah Smith says:
Sharing photos of my skin without makeup makes me feel empowered, because I embrace what society has taught me to hide.
I like it – sharing unfiltered photos as a way to accept oneself, because suddenly there is nothing more to hide.
You are not the only one who has acne and low self-esteem, scars and insecurity.
Someone who has no uncertainty is rarely found these days.
If it is not about their skin, it will be their weight, the shape of their nose, their history, etc.
Yes, we are bombarded with filtered clear, flawless skin that clicks on social networks on a daily basis.
But you know that you're better than that.
You know that you are more than the current number of spots on your cheek.
Acne should not be overlooked.
And if this means that you need to wear makeup to avoid embarrassing questions or social pressure, please.
And when you do, use makeup as a fun accessory, not as a tool to hide your “flaws” and your shame.
You are beautiful, and I see and recognize the light that is inside you, because it is also in me.
So go, no time to waste!
What do you think? How do acne affect your self-esteem, and how do you define and present yourself to the world?
Postscript This article This is a list of fantastic offers to regain self-confidence!
Celine Harleaux suffered from acne for having felt like for centuries and is now blessed with clear skin (well, most of the time).
She discovered energy healing and self-love during her acne jump, and now she believes that self-love is the key that will help you restore your clear skin, strength, confidence, and awesomeness.
You can book a session with her through your website.