Most of my clients are self-valued perfectionists.
So is their coach.
We are prone to high expectations and can be violently inclined when we do not meet our expectations.
Whenever you try to change your behavior or set a new habit, you absolutely cannot cope with it.
As perfectionists, this is hard to accept.
Perfectionists are highly motivated to avoid mistakes. Because mistakes lead to anxiety + excessive + thinking. And this behavior intensifies our emotional pain to such an extent that it does not fit the situation.
We want to feel completely ready before accepting new tasks.
Therefore, we plan and think about instead of taking action.
Change strategies for perfectionists
Learn from success.The idea of learning from your mistakes will probably be too dangerous for the perfectionist.
The alternative is to learn from your successes.
Relying on the paths that led to your success, you can see that you have reached a meaningful end, despite hitting strikes along the way or 100% confidence in success.
Ask yourself: "How can I improve by 1%?" This is especially useful if you are prone to over-complicating problem solutions. Because perfectionists want to be flawless, they tend to ignore small wins.
Attempting a 1 percent improvement is a sensible strategy, especially when …
- Too hard.
- You are the one who tends to over-complicate problem-solving, and you are stuck in thinking rather than taking action.
- There is something you want to do, but you struggle to find time and energy.
If you are struggling to achieve your health goals, because it's either all that good or not at all, consider asking yourself this question …
What will be a small step towards my goal?
XO ~ Robyn
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