If you suffer from acne, answer the question above, “Does acne make you unattractive?” most likely loud, unambiguous YES.
After all, you think it looks ugly when you look in the mirror.
Society seems to support the idea that acne is unattractive.
And well, I'm not trying to crush you, but studies have shown that people find it unattractive.
So this should mean that you are also unattractive, because you have it. Correctly?
I know that this is how I felt during the years of fighting acne. Assuming that as soon as love interest sees that I have spots, they will basically lose their blunder on the spot.
(Flash news: never happened).
Is it true that acne makes you unattractive?
So is it true that acne by default makes you unattractive?
I must argue that the answer is no, because:
YOU DO NOT Jump.
Acne is just a thing. The thing itself, which in itself cannot be particularly attractive (says our current social standard). A thing that would be great if it just disappeared.
But you do not acne.
Everyone is struggling with something. It is just a part of human being.
Acne is something you have to deal with.
This struggle is a small part of the beautiful essence of who you really are. A small part of your glorious, beautiful, dirty humanity. This does not include your whole being.
We are very reductionists. We are inclined to reduce all that we are to a single flaw. An exceptional flaw, which, we assume, is an absolutely compelling reason for a complete rejection of all that we know and will ever meet.
This disadvantage may be that our skin is not perfect, our belly has some extra rolls, or we have a curved nose. Or it can be any number of undesirable personal or life circumstances.
The truth is that if acne is evaluated in a study of attractiveness, they are evaluated from an objective point of view, probably from a photograph where the “judge” knows nothing more about the person. It changes everything.
In fact, the attraction is much more than that. Your personality, your laughter, your sense of humor, your manners, the way you move, your dreams, your ambitions, the way you behave, what you have in common, etc. Etc. D.
Of course, in part it looks, but acne does not include your entire appearance.
Not to mention that attractiveness as a whole is so subjective that attractiveness for one person is not for another, and vice versa. Regardless of whether you have acne or not, you will not be attractive to every single person (yes, this is a difficult truth for us, perfectionists in the crowd).
Send this message directly to the depths of your brain to solve 99% of your problems:
Perfection is not necessary for you to be loved, desired and cared for.
They see that she is attractive with acne. She does not see this.
I feel like every woman I talk to, with acne, which has a partner, the partner does not seem to give two impressions about her skin.
And those who do not have a partner always seem shocked when someone is in love with them, in fact asks them or wants to deal with them, even if they broke up.
THEY see her beauty. SHE just doesn't see it.
You see, the fact that you are struggling with acne is only a small part of who you are, which in most cases is not so important. You are more than acne, and your attractiveness is more than your skin.
Someone with acne seems incomprehensible that others can look through their fingers, because we see it as everything that we are.
But think about how you feel about others — do you choose your friends and lovers based on their complete lack of flaws? Do you choose your friends based on their gorgeous skin or lack of belly?
If they have some kind of “flaw”, whether physical or personal, when you love or love them, you just see it as something that is ready for the trip.
Everyone you love comes with good and bad.
You know that the bad does not define them and does not cancel their beauty and surprise.
Your acne determines neither you nor your attractiveness.
Have you turned into yourself to be nothing more than your skin? This is normal if you have it! We all did it! Share your stories in the comments.