It is absolutely NORMAL to experience negative body image days. Normally do not like what you see in the mirror or in the photo.
Welcome to my friend's club.
But you don't have to stay in this place. You do not need to remove the feeling of guilt and shame that you feel bad against the background of ALREADY, feeling painfully.
Today I am sharing a process that will help you deploy negative feedback with a body image – so that you can continue to live your amazing life.
Because the world needs you.
This process is based on the work of many brilliant minds in this field.
If you train consistently, it will be easier to pass through and quickly go to the other side.
It reminds me – you will feel bad again. This is normal. Achieving some kind of constant love for love nirvana is like thinking that life can be sunny and bright with unicorns 24/7.
This is unreal. Not in a culture that pays a lot of attention to how we look.
But fewer episodes of negative thoughts and their movement with grace and compassion are within reach.
So how do you do it?
- Practice grace
When your mind spirals – and the guilt and shame, sadness and frustration grow – the practice becomes benevolent and sympathizes with you.
This is normal.
This is normal.
Please do not beat yourself for feeling bad in your body. You can not always love your body.
Piling up even MORE complex emotions on top of what you already feel just feeds the fire – and keeps us stuck and spinning and lacking power.
- Get centered
Remember: this is not an emergency. Even though he FEELS as an emergency. I understood. I was there. I was just there. Today. In a yoga class.
Removing leads to one place – wanting to fix it now! And fixing it now usually looks like an OTHER restrictive diet. Or do not eat until the end of the day. Or get on the treadmill for 2 hours. Or googling lose 20 pounds in 7 days,
Please do not.
True bomb: the only thing that has changed is your thinking. Before starting the event, you were fine. You are still fine.
- Have you seen a photo from a family holiday
- You looked in the mirror
- Someone tagged you on Facebook
- Friend lost 20 pounds
- You put on a pair of jeans
- You compared yourself to someone else.
The trigger event caused a shift in thinking – and we can manage our thinking right here, right now.
When we understand how we got to this place. When we become aware of what makes us feel that our body is a problem (and this is NOT), it is easier to work with it.
Start by naming the emotions that you feel.
- Not good enough
Naming our emotions helps us process them.
As children, we are often told to calm down, to suck, to be strong, to overcome this. As a result, when we experience complex emotions, we tend to resist them. We push them. We feel ashamed of the bad mood.
Your emotions have value. All of them. And they can teach you strong lessons.
Why do you feel this way? What led to this? Is there a sample? Does this often happen when you are with a certain person or in a certain situation?
If we can define a pattern, we can prepare in advance.
Hmm, when I'm around my sisters, I often get a negative body image.
Good to know.
Now ask yourself what you are really need at this moment.
What are you not the need is an hour dedicated to exploring the latest fad diets or viewing a photo of yourself when you are underweight.
We all did it, right? I know I know. And he feels TERROM.
What are you really need?
- Go for a walk and clear your head?
- Funny podcast?
- Encouraging words from a reliable friend or partner?
- To have your hands dirty in your garden?
Give yourself what you really need.
- Relax your mind
When we are in negative space, the shift towards a positive attitude towards our bodies is difficult. Think about striving for neutrality (or just feeling a little better).
Find a personal mantra that resonates with you. One who feels true.
What do you need to hear? What would a wise + supportive friend tell you?
Some ideas …
I don't need to fix it.
This is not an emergency.
My body is a tool, not an ornament.
I should not be like anyone else.
Try to thank a little for what your body can do.
Function over form.
Thank you for the gift that can make a trip (or do yoga or love a dog or watch the sunset or laugh).
Thank you for the opportunity to hug the people I love.
Thank you for your ability to smell this lavender candle (or rain in the air or the blissful smell of petunia).
Thank you for letting me enjoy this delicious latte.
Thank you for the opportunity to explore new places of interest.
Every time you practice these steps, it will be easier for you to pull yourself out of the spiral. When this happens, it will become easier to recognize. It will be easier to be kind + compassionate to yourself.
Your body is more than a decoration to beautify this world.
Your body is a tool.
Instrument of power and insults and magic.
And the world needs your magic.
More than ever.
XO ~ Robyn
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